Dealing with death is something everyone has to go through. The day you are born is a countdown until the day that you die. Morbid in theory, but true all the same. To the forensic scientist, death has four modes: 1) Homicide, 2) Accidental, 3) Suicide and 4) Natural. It's weird to think how someone who meant so much to someone else could be compared to a mode. Of the four modes of death, probably the easiest one to deal with is natural. Mostly because families and friends have had time to prepare themselves for the events to come. It doesn't make the pain less bearable, but it's usually expected. The hardest deaths are the ones that come suddenly and unexpectedly. One minute you have a loved one who is laughing, smiling, talking, etc., and the next minute they are gone with no warning. People try to comfort those dealing with the loss by saying things like, "they are in a better place now" or "everything happens for a reason".
Do those illogical explanations bring any real comfort to those who are grieving? To me, no, they don't. How do you know whether or not someone is in a better place? Have you ever been there? Do you know someone who's been there and come back to tell you about it? Does it bring you comfort to believe that because you don't want to believe that this life is all there is? Because it really doesn't bring comfort to the one who just lost someone they loved very much. And really, if everything happens for a reason, what possible reason is there for God to take a mother, grandmother, etc., from her family with no warning whatsoever? In the grand scheme of things what is the lesson to be learned here?
I'm pissed! I've dealt with death entirely too much lately, and I'm tired of it. My family has had to suffer some tremendous losses within the last two years, and I just want to know when it's going to stop. When is God going to cut our family some slack? Haven't we seen enough and endured enough to earn us some get out of jail free cards for the next 20 or so years? How much pain does God want this family to take? And the more important question is WHY? Why does God want to continue to make this family suffer? For an all loving God, it seems cruel and heartless! Why was it necessary to cut the life short of a man who gave his all to his family, his community, his friends...the good seed who always had a level head and who would never hurt a fly, but a pedaphile can walk the streets every day and live life taking the virtues away from little children? Why was it necessary to cut the life short of a woman who overcame AMAZING odds and a major near death experience, only to be brought back from that and die from something that could have treated, but yet, a murderer is still allowed to breathe the air and preying on unsuspecting victims? Really, WHAT POSSIBLE REASON does God have for sparing the lives of some of the most heinous people in the world, yet taking the lives of those who make a positive difference way before their time? If that isn't a test of faith, I don't know what is!
Natural, expected death, I can deal with....My grandmother was 94 when she died, but I know she lived a long, full life. Same goes for my grandmother-in-law. They got to see their grandkids grow up. They got to make positive, lasting differences on their families. They made wonderful lives for themselves. There was no reason to take my brother-in-law or my aunt-in-law from this earth so soon, and I'm going to have a very hard time reconciling my feelings about the "divine purpose."
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